He’s cheating and I want revenge

tmj4477 asked 2 years ago

Okay I so know my husband is cheating and I have the emails to prove it (thanks to a webwatcher program). I want to send him emails under a alias address; however, I dont want him to know that I have his email password and be able to track me via IP address through email (he's works in intelligence and his friends are IT's). Basically I want him to squirm and be uncomfortable for a while. How can I hide or change my IP address? Or do I have to have someone else send the email from a separate location?

2 Answers
Cody Robertson Staff answered 2 years ago

Hi TMJ

I think you're moving in the wrong direction - and I think I know why! You're treating this as a technical issue, however this is a human relationship problem.

If you believe your husband is cheating, you should raise the subject in a calm manner and express your concerns and fears. The action you are proposing here is not open and honest and when he discovers what you've been doing, he'll use this to justify his bad/dishonest behavior.

So please consider an honest open approach. Ask him to come with you to a marriage councilor. The IT Help desk (this forum) is poorly skilled to help you resolve your issues.

I hope you find a solution and happiness.

Scrittore answered 2 years ago

[QUOTE=tmj4477;2169]Okay I so know my husband is cheating and I have the emails to prove it (thanks to a webwatcher program). I want to send him emails under a alias address; however, I dont want him to know that I have his email password and be able to track me via IP address through email (he's works in intelligence and his friends are IT's). Basically I want him to squirm and be uncomfortable for a while. How can I hide or change my IP address? Or do I have to have someone else send the email from a separate location?[/QUOTE]

Some have counseled you to confront your husband in hopes of recovering your marriage. While any steps necessary to save a marriage that can be saved are worthwhile, two things out of three are just as likely to happen pursuant to the confrontation.

(1) He goes "underground" after assuring you he will not repeat the action, drop the illicit partner, etc., and just be more careful next time
(2) He really does repent but you can't get past his infidelity or wondering if he is thinking of "the other woman" every time he touches you

The third, the marriage is saved, you forgive, he regrets his actions, and you both live happily ever after.

May it be so - but if not possible - to email him anonymously, set up an account at SwissMail.org from which to send your emails (forget the library, they will take your ID and you cannot hide your IP address emailing from there so if your husband is computer-savy or has a friend that is, you will likely be unmasked).

The most affordable arrangement from SwissMail allows you to have three aliases so you can REALLY keep him off balance until you are finally ready to take him down.

Best of success

Scrittore

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