Forum trouble-help please

arena asked 2 years ago

I post on a forum and have been involved in some debates, a mod who runs the forum has taken a dislike to me. He threatened to ban me and believes I have several different user names on the forum (which I don't).

When I told him that wasn't true, he respnoned with, "oh really (persons first name)?".

The name he used is not my name. Has he mistaken me for someone else or is he calling my bluff?

I understand that from an ip you can maybe tell the general location of the person and nothing else.

I don't use social networking sites and have done a "deep" net search of my email address and nothing comes up.

He won't discuss why he called me by that name or why he believes I have more than one account.

1 Answers
Rob Vargas Staff answered 2 years ago

Forum moderating is sometimes more of an art than a science. But there is one rule that I think is pretty universal: arguing with users does not generally do anyone any good. Makes the user angry and generally leaves negative feelings toward the moderator.

I've been the moderator who had to take action against someone and I've been the troublemaker who had to get smacked down (hint: don't bring up politics around me). I didn't always agree with the moderator's actions, but I didn't always disagree.

At some point, you have to take a long, hard look at what's going on and decide if it's worth the consequences. In this particular case, you're asking about the moderator, but, really, you cannot change that, can you? What *can* you change? You.

Please don't misunderstand. I'm not saying you're wrong, and the moderator is right. But, clearly, they have the power to stop you. So... whether that moderator is bluffing, making things up, or thinks they know something, is this battle worth the heartache?

You just might be asking the wrong question on that forum.

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