How to Disconnect in an Overly Connected World

We live in an increasingly digital age. As a society, we are almost always plugged into the Internet and connected to one another. There’s no denying the benefits this can have for keeping us closer, but we are also subjected to dangers with such constant exposure. A PEW Research Center study found that in 2019, 81% of Americans reported owning a smartphone—a startling jump from 35% in 2011.  But what’s more concerning is the statistics of smartphone addiction; King University’s 2017 study found that 50% of teens and 59% of adults showed clear signs of addictive behavior. Those percentages are undoubtedly even higher three years later.

That brings us to the question at hand: how can we possibly disconnect when we live in such a technology-centric environment? If you have ever felt the desire to break free from the connectivity of the world, you aren’t alone, and it’s not impossible—even if it seems so. Try taking these steps, big and small, to cut back on your phone and Internet usage and start to disconnect in our overly-connected world.

Set time limits on your apps and phone—and stick to them

As a person who admittedly uses a cell phone for too many hours in the day, I understand how difficult it can be to set limits on social media apps and to track your phone usage. It can even be unsettling to see how much time you actually do spend online or how fast it goes. But taking advantage of built-in time limits on devices—or setting your own—can make a big difference and help you self-monitor the time you’re putting into the Internet.

Apps like Instagram now have their own time limit features. You can set a time limit for how long you can spend scrolling under Instagram’s settings in the app. It will send you a warning when you’ve reached your limit. You can also invest in apps like Offtime, which allow you to choose time limits for all apps and select which apps you’d like to turn off. Regardless of the limits you choose to set for yourself, the most important thing is to stick by them.
disconnect from social media

For social media apps that you find yourself clicking on constantly, it’s great to take a break entirely by deleting the app. Deleting the app won’t harm your account in any way, and you can redownload at any time, but it forces you to disconnect temporarily and focus on what’s in front of you.

Turn off all unimportant notifications

Similarly, make sure to mute all notifications that aren’t important. Even if you aren’t on the apps actively, having notifications pour onto your computer or phone screen can seriously distract from the real world. It will keep you connected even when you’re trying to stay Internet-free for a while. You can also try using your device’s Do Not Disturb feature to mute all notifications temporarily if you’re really going for an hour or two of disconnected freedom.

Use social media sparingly

Social media is one of the biggest pitfalls when we try to disconnect. Social media is not only fun, but it’s addicting; it is challenging to step away, and why would we want to anyways?

In truth, it’s much healthier for us to live in the moment rather than online. Social media of all kinds can distract from that. Using social media sparingly involves things like:

  • Only checking a couple times a day, and for short amounts of time
  • Periodically taking “social media breaks” to disconnect entirely and refresh our minds
  • Considering if what we’re about to post really needs to be shared with the public

Remember that social media is also a very carefully constructed online world; it isn’t real life. Immersing ourselves in social media can be harmful, especially for teens and young adults. Using social media responsibly also means that we need to be smart and safe when using social media apps.

Set a dedicated electronics-free hour each day

Selecting just an hour each day to be completely disconnected can help significantly with mental and physical health. This hour can vary by day, or you can pick a time and stick with it—whatever works best for you and your schedule. However, a great time to be electronics-free is before bed, as electronics are proven to stimulate your mind. This interrupts your body’s natural circadian rhythm and makes it harder to fall asleep.

Make small changes that add up

Little things can make a difference in helping you disconnect too. For example, don’t use your phone as your alarm clock in the morning; try an alarm clock. This will lessen the temptation to jump on your phone as soon as you open your eyes. Don’t use your phone when you’re bored, either, as this can be a dangerous habit that results in dependency. If you see that you’re reaching for your phone out of habit, make a conscious effort to stop. Ask yourself if you truly need to be connected at that moment.  

As hard as it is to disconnect in our overly-connected world, the commitment is more than worth it. We can appreciate all that the Internet has done to allow us to be linked with others and still recognize that it’s important to step back once in a while. Overall, the best thing to do is to look at your own life and evaluate if you are really and truly happy with the way you spend your time. Think you might be ready for a change? Try disconnecting for a while and see all the benefits it can bring.